The Undo Button

We started work on Celia’s next album. For those of you who have been with us from the very beginning, this one makes five. We have no idea what the final title will be, but we like what we have recorded so far. I am amazed at how the technology of recording has changed since we began our recording journey back in 1990. One of the newer inventions on the recording machine (the one we’re using now doesn’t use tape) is the “undo” button. What an incredible invention. I wish I would have discovered / invented the button. Here’s how it works: if you don’t like what you just did, you simply hit “undo” and presto you’re right back where you were before you made your last attempt. This is a big leap forward in the recording process. In the “old days,” like a year or two ago, you had to choose between keeping what you had on tape and taking the risk of destroying it in hopes of recording a better take, (You could burn up extra tape to keep both efforts). But, it was pretty much a “do or die” kind of situation. Now, you just give it your best effort and then make your choice with no risk.

You may have had some personal experience with the undo button. Maybe you’ve encountered an undo option on your computer. We have grown so comfortable with that option that our computers now tell us if we’re about to perform a task that cannot be undone. Commitment on our part is no longer expected as the default option.

I have thought of some other applications for the undo button that would help me personally. I’m thinking I’d like to have one close by for the times when I say an unkind word. Or maybe those times when I share a word of gossip or a secret that wasn’t meant to be shared. Or what about one for school or work. Have you had a time when an incorrect answer or a less-than-great idea somehow escaped your brain and made its way from your mouth to the ear of someone you really respected. Sometimes I don’t even know that what I did wasn’t a great idea until I see someone else’s reaction. The undo button could handle that situation as well. The listener wouldn’t even remember what they’d heard. Life would be as if the thing never happened.

I am not alone in my need; I think there were some times when the disciples could’ve used such a button. How about the time they had that argument about who was the greatest. Or what about right after Peter heard the cock crow a third time. I bet he would have given anything for a shot at the undo button. Or what about Judas when he was counting the cost of those thirty pieces of silver.

But life is not like that. We cannot undo most of what happens. There wasn’t a safety net at the circus I went to as a kid and we knew it. It made everything more exciting. You knew those performers high in the air were at risk up there.

My hope today is that you and I would live just a little more intentionally, knowing that there is not an undo button for what we do and say–this isn’t a dress rehearsal . . . so, walk chalantly.

Ron

On Receiving Love

It’s 10 PM on a Saturday night… Max is finally asleep… I find that I get most done when he has yet to wake in the morning and is slumbering late at night… of course, I’m also most tired at these times…. it’s a good tired… kinda like a dry heat in Dallas… you know what I mean…

… the wind is blowing outside… and it just started to rain… I’m reflecting on my day.. my week… nothing out of the ordinary happened today… lots of little things… read Max “Where the Wild Things Are”… great book from Maurice Sendak….he’s the kind of people I want to hang out with …folks with that kind of imagination…. a couple of things jumped out at me today from this book that I’d like to share… first it was written in ‘63… the year I was born… I only discovered this book in college thanks to a wonderful teacher who taught Children’s Lit… Bob Hallquist…. he made books come alive and taught me that a lot can be learned from children’s books at any age…this book starts with Max causing mischief… and his mother calls him a WILD THING… like any good book I don’t want to give anything away.. but I can’t help but share more.. he is sent to his room without dinner….

…. there, he has a fantasy of his room being transformed into a forest… and of sailing to where the wild things are… and wild things he meets … he tames them and is made king of all wild things… I love the next part.. they dance and played and finally Max was lonely … “and wanted to be where someone loved him best of all.”…. I missed this line for so many years… the friend who gave me this book…. she underlined this line…and I am so thankful… I have missed it for so many years…Max was lonely …. “and wanted to be where someone loved him best of all.”….thinking about it now … in the quiet of the night makes me a little teary eyed… I realized how much love I have in my life…

… not only that I have felt loved… best of all but more importantly I have loved by giving the gift of love to others… in the movie “Marvin’s room”… there is a scene that has always moved me…the older sister, Lee and her two boys are visiting her younger sister, Bessie… Bessie has recently found out she has Leukemia…and her sister has been estranged from the family for many years… Lee and her boys are there to be tested as a bone marrow donors…Bessie has spent most of her adult life_taking care of their ill father and frail Aunt Ruth….the two women are in the kitchen late one night and Bessie says to Lee… “I’ve been so lucky to have had Dad and Aunt Ruth… I’ve had such love in my life.. I look back and I’ve had such love”… the older sister Lee, looks down and says, “they have loved you very much”… but Bessie corrects her by saying, “that’s not what I mean… I mean I loved them… I’ve been so lucky to have been able to love someone so much”… what a gift to be able to loved someone completely… to love someone best of all… that’s when love comes our way.. that’s when we don’t feel lonely… that’s when I forget about myself and, like the leaves I hear tossing outside my window, I am carried off by this love… love I feel from my family… and friends of course.. and God who is ever present… but, best of all, love I GIVE as a gift…

….. that’s the kind of love I want for Max… my friends… my family… for you… and for me….

…other favorite children’s books… (it’s a long list I know)…Runaway Bunny, Good Gorilla, GoodNight Max.. by Rosemary Wells… she has lots of Max books…Pat the Bunny… Velveteen Rabbit… I Promise I’ll Find You, by Heather Patricia Ward…. Anno’s USA, by Mitsumasa Anno… great pics… Santa Mouse… my folks read this to me when I was a little wild thing…. The Paper Bag Princess (a must have), by Robert Munsch, who also wrote I Love You this Much… Berenstein Bears… Oh The Places You’ll Go, by Dr. Seuss… The Giving Tree (and any poem books), by Shel Silverstein… A Fly Went By, by Mike McClintock… Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day, by Judith Viorst… There’s a Monster in my Closet, by Mercer Mayer.. and my favorite picture book … The Mysteries of Harris Burdick, by Chris Van Allsburg…

enjoy my wild friends… celia

What are you dreaming of?

What are you dreaming of?

This summer, one morning Ron, Max and I were eating breakfast at our favorite local hang.. Merridee’s… Ron and I were munching toast and getting our fill of coffee…while Max was asleep and a young girl looked in on him and I asked her… “What do you think he’s dreaming of?”… without hesitation she said… “the first day of school”… we all cracked up… what a great answer…. for the 7 yr. old girl the first day of school was right around the corner… and was exciting and new… all of us are dreaming of something…

These are some of the things I dream about… at night and during the day…..
+ new shoes.. I’m into red these days
+ the beach
+ 2 dress sizes smaller… ok I’m human
+ heaven… what it will be like… being with Christ… being with loved ones who are no longer here… trusting that God will be with me
+ good friends to hang out with
+ happiness… sometimes, I think happiness is a choice… I can choose to gripe and complain about what’s not going right or I can rejoice in the good that I experience daily
+ songs… lots of times in my dreams I hear music…. new melodies… new lyrics… sometimes in the morning light they don’t hold the luster they had a 2 am
+ what Max will be like when he’s older… what will he look like…what will he like to do.. what will interest him….how will he change the world… what will he be when he grows up
+ what will I be when I grow up.. what’s next for me in my life… it’s exciting to think about.. and scary… I know God will lead me. Ron and Max will journey with me as will several friends with whom I will
+ share love,nuturing and inpiration at every crossroads peace… for me, for my loved one, for you, for the world.

This new year…. will bring many new dreams… one thing I’ve learned about dreams is that the harder you work, the more they seem to come true. I love the quote from the movie Shawshank Redemption.. great flick… never gets old or dated… Morgan Freeman’s character says, “you can get busy livin’ or get busy dying”….I might add to that get busy dreaming…..what are you dreaming of?

Max

Greetings! Alot can happen in a week….. this time last week Maxwell ‘Max’ Grisham Whitler was born into the world…. 4:08 pm central daylight time (we hit the send button on this email, exactly one week later in celebration of his one week birthday–at 4:08 pm)…..Ron and I have had a wonderful wild week…. thank you for your notes, calls, e-mails, advice, flowers, gifts, prayers…. during this pregnancy and this week…. many of you told us it was going to be an experience of a lifetime…. I had no idea…. Max is great ….. like many other parents… I think he is beautiful…. readers digest version of the week and Max: he’s got dark blue eyes and I think he looks like Ron , he’s got dark brown hair…and lots of it…. when he is awake …. he is checking everything and everybody out….. he was born very alert and active… mother’s genes…..anything can happen when you are changing a diaper….. especially with boys… look out! … he has the cutest sneezes… 3 or 4 in a row…. and after them most of the time he lets out a sigh that cracks us up….the name… we like Max and Grisham is a family name… sleep is overratted…..moms who have had little sleep can be brought to tears over a can of biscuits…. and dads have to listen to this nonsense, smile and give hugs…. in short- Ron has been very supportive and a wonderful partner….. we are glad Max is finally here, on the outside….he’s a good guy to be around….. and it will be a joy to see his personality develop…..

… there’s been a lot to learn this week…. a lot to take in ……

… I have thought about Mary and in the Bible where it says she pondered these things in her heart…. what must have been going on in her mind is a mystery to me the week after Jesus was born….and how she had Jesus in the midst of the chaos that surrounded her amazes me….how did she keep her cool… how did she focus on the baby…. did she ask for help from Joseph…did she ask other mothers advice and share her fears with them….. I have pondered lots this week….. and I wonder if she had similar questions and worries that I have had….will he always be safe….. will he always feel loved….. will he know what’s important to Ron and I…..will we continue with God’s help to grow as parents and partners….. will he learn to lean on his faith …. and be in true retationship with God and others….. will he be a giver and not a taker…..when he’s 16 and says “yea right” to me in a sarcastic tone… will I remember how cute and sweet and loved uncontionally he is and continue to support him as he grows into his own…..

…..I thank God for this week…. for Ron… for Max… for you in our lives as we enter this new chapter of life… the journey is to be enjoyed… in the midst of pain, questions, fears, laughter, elation….and this week it has been……

To see pictures of Max, follow this link:
http://www.celiamusic.net/infopages/maxpage.html

The stats: Max joined us at 4:08 pm CDT. He weighed 7 lbs 6 ozs, was 19.5″ long.

Max

Celia delivered today. We had a 7 pound 6 ounce baby boy this afternoon at 4:08 pm central time. His first name will be Maxwell and we’ll call him Max–middle name TBA. We’ll follow up with more details and point you to some pictures at a later date, but lots of folks have been asking, so we thought we’d let you know. We appreciate all of your prayers and thoughts through this wonderful time. Mom, dad and baby are fine!

Basketball

I hope this note finds you all happy and healthy….

March Madness is here… in the last few years .. I have become a basketball fan…. some of my interest I will readily admit can from my love of watching Michael Jordan play… he is and forever will be … in my humble opinion “the greatest basketball player that has ever played the game”…. as Dennis Miller put it… in the future we should teach our children how to count …21…22…Jordan…24…25… now with Jordan retired… my eyes have turned quickly to the Lakers… I have a friend that I eat breakfast with and he has nurtured not only my basketball love but my Laker loyalty….and it didn’t hurt that Shaq played for LSU… with the NBA in full swing and NCAA finals here…. I am getting my fill of the game…. you watch these teams play and the thing that amazes me is how easy they make it look…. it makes me want to go out and shoot hoops…. get into a mean game of horse… you know…..
…. this past weekend… Ron and I got a chance to watch some of college basketball…. I think the thing that I loved best was the last 2 minutes of a game…. what is great about those last seconds ticking off…is when it is a close game… and there have been several…anything can happen…. some games have been determined by the last shot…
…..I think of my life now…. what I want to learn from this game that I love is I want to live my life a little more like it… the worst games to watch are when folks quit trying… nobody’s rebounding… no hands are up… shots aren’t taken when they are wide open…. those of you who got the great fortune to watch me play intramural girls basketball at Centenary College…could say.. hey, Celia that sounds just like your game…OK I’ll be the first to admit… my game was a little in slow mo’…. but applying the things I have experienced and learned in my life so far…. I want to pick my life game up a little….I want to not just sit back and let the life come to me but I want to get in there and add my gifts… add my talents.. take a few risks… and live up to the last seconds….geaux Tigers!!!!! (that’s LSU)

On Love and Strength

Hello Beautiful People… Life is good and I hope this message finds you happy and healthy… I just finished reading Christopher Reeves’ book, “Still Me”–written after his 1995 accident that left him paralyzed from the neck down… Several thing about this book struck me and I’d like to share a few… After his accident, his wife, Dana, came into his room… during a time of discouragement, he said, “Maybe we should let me go… save everyone a lot of trouble.”… she responded… “You’re still you, and I love you”… He goes on to talk about their love still being there… unconditional… accepting each new challenge… growing as they change and their relationship changes… their love grows stronger in his time of greatest weakness… He also talks about friends being there for him… an outpouring of love and support… people believing in him in moments when he struggled to believe in himself… and he touches on God being there… at one point he says, “I have to develop a relationship with God, right now, otherwise I’m lost.” He goes on to say… He doesn’t believe that God makes these things happen, but where God comes in, where grace enters, is in the strength you find to deal with it… the last thing he says about God is he believes that the comment that God is love is literally true…

I’ve thought about his inspirational story and about others who have faced great change… overwhelming challenges… heartaches… uncertainties in their lives… I’ve thought about the times Ron and I have been discouraged… at a crossroads… times of weakness and fear…

The one thing that has been true… the one thing that has been real and constant in my life is love… love for each other… not trying to change the other person, but really unconditionally loving the uniqueness each of us brings to our relationships… love from others… love from our relationship with Christ that sustains us… love that listens… love that encourages… love that is willing to go through the tough times… love that is a daily commitment… love that is reckless… love that builds others up and is unselfish… as I think about my life and the legacy I will leave behind… I pray that it will include that kind of love.

On Change

Greetings Friends… I recently picked up Steven Curtis Chapman’s new CD Speechless….he has a song on it called “The Change”… based on 2 Corinthians 5:17…. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, He/She…is a new creation… the old is gone… the new has come!….. I loved the song… but more than the music …I loved the reminder I received listening to it and reading the lyrics… the Chorus reads… What about the Change.. what about the difference… what about the grace… what about forgiveness… what about a life that’s showing…. I’m undergoing the change……

The year 2000 is going to bring on many changes in all of our lives…. to be honest some will be easy and others painfully hard…. my prayer daily is that Christ will live in my heart and change my heart… so that I am more loving…. more God like… more forgiving… more grace filled…. so that strangers who meet me will see/and witness God’s love with our without my using words….

The hard thing about change for me is the letting go….letting go of control…. my good friend… and youth director buddy Dwight and Ron and I were on a trip with his youth…. and Ron was laughing about being in control…. and Dwight said “I ‘ve given that up years ago… I know I’m not in control….” we all laughed… but how many times… have I thought I was in control….. of a situation… of others…. of the future… of my fears…. of outcomes…. as I look at this new year…. I am praying that I learn a little more each day to let go…. to let God change me so that when others forget my name…. my kindness will live on……

On Fall

hope all is well with you… summer was a blur…. lot of singing… lots of traveling… but the best part was connecting with old friends and making new ones… Youth ’99 was a wonderful reunion with many of you… we had a great time! With all that summer was…great trips… feet in sand… lazy days… I am always glad when fall comes… the cool weather…. football…leaves changing colors… and a routine getting in swing…. school cranks back up and you get a new start…. each fall is a new chance for each of us to make some changes in our own lives…some I’m working on … hooking up with friends I’ve been out of touch with… more quiet time… more time reading and praying…. something I do just for me …like take a walk or run… lunch with a girlfriend or a great email or chat with an old school mate…. being more positive….speaking kinder words…calling my folks more just to touchbase… counting my blessings…

I am so thankful for today… who I am … what I do… and the people I get to work with and meet… as I look at the changes I want to make this fall…I am reminded of all that is in my life that is wonderful…. I am thankful for you and for your love and your support and for God’s grace that is present daily…

enjoy your fall,
Celia

On Striving

…hope this note finds you happy, healthy, and cool! …I was recently reading some poems written by American writers and came upon a familiar poem by Rudyard Kipling… If… wonderful words to live by… my father mailed it to me soon after Ron and I moved to Franklin, Tn. I think he felt we needed a little encouragement… he enclosed a note with it that said throught out the years this poem has given him inspiration and a challenge to be a better person… he had rewritten the last line …. to replace man, my son with great person…I share it with you and hope that like me you will realize the good you do in just being you and continue to strive to be more loving, caring and embracing life each day… here’s If….

IF YOU CAN KEEP YOU HEAD WHEN ALL ABOUT YOU
ARE LOSING THEIRS AND BLAMING IT ON YOU
IF YOU CAN TRUST YOURSELF WHEN ALL MEN DOUBT YOU
BUT MAKE ALLOWANCE FOR THEIR DOUBTING TOO
IF YOU CAN WAIT AND NOT BE TIRED BY WAITING
OR BEING LIED ABOUT, DON’T DEAL IN LIES
OR BEING HATED, DON’T GIVE WAY TO HATING,
AND YET DON’T LOOK TOO GOOD, NOR TALK TOO WISE

IF YOU CAN DREAM AND NOT MAKE DREAMS YOUR MASTER
IF YOU CAN THINK AND NOT MAKE THOUGHTS YOUR AIM
IF YOU CAN MEET WITH TRIUMPH AND DISASTER
AND TREAT THOSES TWO IMPOSTERS JUST THE SAME
IF YOU CAN BEAR TO HEAR THE TRUTH YOU’VE SPOKEN
TWISTED BY KNAVES TO MAKE A TRAP FOR FOOLS
OR WATCH THE THINGS YOU GAVE YOUR LIFE TO BROKEN
AND STOOP AND BUILD’EM UP WITH WORNOUT TOOLS

IF YOU CAN MAKE ONE HEAP OF ALL YOU WINNINGS
AND RISK IT ON ONE TURN OF PITCH AND TOSS
AND LOSE, AND START AGIAN AT YOUR BEGINNINGS
AND NEVER BREATHE A WORD ABOUT YOUR LOSS
IF YOU CAN FORCE YOUR HEART AND NERVE AND SINEW
TO SERVE YOUR TURN LONG AFTER THEY ARE GONE
AND SO HOLD ON WHEN THERE IS NOTHING IN YOU
EXCEPT THE WILL WHICH SAYS TO THEM: “HOLD ON”

IF YOU CAN TALK WITH CROWDS AND KEEP YOUR VIRTUE
OR WALK WITH KINGS NOR LOSE THE COMMON TOUCH
IT NEITHER FOES NOR LOVING FRIENDS CAN HURT YOU
IF ALL MEN COUNT WITH YOU, BUT NONE TOO MUCH
IF YOU CAN FILL THE UNFORGIVING MINUTE
WITH SIXTY SECONDS WORTH OF DISTANCE RUN
YOURS IS THE EARTH AND EVERYTHING THAT’S IN IT
( MY DAD’S ENDING…. )
YOU’LL BE A TRUE AND FINE PERSON.

…. through out my life… I have meet so many people who have shared courage, inspiration, a true willingness to live life to it’s fullness… just today on the cover of USA Today… Lance Armstrong, 22 yr. old from Texas is pictured carrying the US flag as he crossed the finish line to win the Tour de France… to hear his story… of overcoming cancer… believing in himself and drawing strength from those around him who love him…. …for my life Christ is this true inspiration …. a model of loving others… knowing who I am and being me… and sowing seeds of love and kindness on the path…